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lesbianspacepilot:

that scene in matilda where miss honey finally snaps and yells “because shes a spectacularly wonderful child and i love her!” > all of quentin tarantino’s filmography 

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4thsun:

Aries Moon: Your impulsivity. You’ve probably heard it a thousand times before, you’re probably trying to change it already but your impulsive nature often brings you into unnecessary arguments and trouble. You might even see this as a sort of strength, saying what’s on your mind, but you do not recognize how this negatively effects your relationships and the people around you. Being outspoken is fine but this turning into taking out your feelings onto others is not.

Taurus Moon: Your kindness. This might sound backwards but your inherently helpful attitude is your biggest downfall. You constantly offering everyone a helping hand makes you very observant to when you do not get offered the same. You usually try to tough these negative feelings out but do tend to fall victim to them and turn bitter, killing yourself with your own kindness.

Gemini Moon: Your facade. You’re probably sick of hearing about how “fake” you are already but this is not what this is about. Rather, you tend to put on a happy mask and deny yourself your feelings and concentrate on the ones of others. This leads you to self-sabotage and hinder both your emotional growth and your ability to truly connect with others. You’re denying yourself the chance of genuine human connection, but might even feel like you’re not even worth it.

Cancer Moon: Your attachments. You’re unable to let things go, whether it be people, relationships or objects. You latch onto them and try to do everything possible to prevent them from going and even after they do, you dwell in memories. Let your wounds heal and let your grudges go, it is unhealthy for you to live in memories and stay in unfulfilling relationships.

Leo Moon: Your fear of emotions. You’re constantly out there, presenting yourself, putting yourself out there and into the spotlight, but when it comes to actually talking about your emotions you suddenly turn quiet. You don’t have to fear your act fading after you reveal your true emotions. It’s okay to let things out. Nobody will think differently of you. Let others get to know you.

Virgo Moon: Your perfectionism. You are your worst critic, constantly comparing yourself, grading yourself, never enough for yourself. The sound of your parents echoes in your thoughts and does not let you rest and you do not recognize how much you really do, especially for others and how grateful they are for you. Your worth is not measured by your usefulness and the worth of others isn’t as well. Don’t project your inner anxieties onto them.

Libra Moon: Your indecisiveness. You’re constantly questioning who you are, who you want to be, who you want others to be, if you want to be others, if you want others to be with you. You make yourself unable to form an identity and instead base it around others. Don’t simply mirror actions and only let your shadow show in the dark. Grow your own wings.

Scorpio Moon: Your need for control. Don’t you get tired of constantly sabotaging situations and yourself just so you can be in and feel like you’re in control? Even when you know you’re acting irrational, you keep acting out to get the validation you crave. Let go for once. Don’t claw at things or open new wounds just to feel something. Just let yourself fall.

Sagittarius Moon: Your lack of perspective. You pride yourself on knowing a lot, on being open-minded, on being a free spirit but when it comes to it you’re the most close-minded of them all. You’re stuck in your own viewpoint which leads to accidental and not so accidental insensitivity and others thinking you are stuck up. Widen your horizons for real for once. Let others offer their opinion, consider someone elses viewpoint before doing or saying something, follow your own advice.

Capricorn Moon: Your inferiority complex. You don’t like to admit it, but you love one-upping others, you love rising above, you love fulfilling the expectations others and you have set upon you. At the same time, you feel extremely anxious and despair when you cannot do that. Your inherent need to stand at the top, to prove yourself, makes you come off wrong and standoffish and tears your self-esteem to shreds. Remember that you are your own person.

Aquarius Moon: Your egoism. You parade yourself around as a welcoming, friendly, chill person but in reality you are stuck in your own little world and are offended when anyone questions it. You’ve found out the world’s secrets but only apply it to yourself, you hide yourself in your bubble to not face your own faults and instead point the finger at others. Stop only focusing on yourself. Realize and admit your mistakes to let yourself blossom into the wonder you’re destined to be.

Pisces Moon: Your martyr complex. You see yourself as someone nice, someone who wants to help others, people in need. You want to bear their sins, to fix them, but while you try to do that you see them as nothing but things to project onto. You’re unintentionally manipulative, skilled in making yourself look like the innocent lamb. Stop trying to be the perfect human who never does wrong. Accept yourself as a faulty human. Use your love for good, not to validate yourself.

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gynandromorph:

Taken from Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson, Psy.D. A summary of the tips the book hands you on how to recognize emotionally healthy people.

They’re realistic and reliable

They work with reality rather than fighting it. They see problems and try to fix them, instead of overreacting with a fixation on how things should be.

They can feel and think at the same time. The ability to think even when upset makes an emotionally mature person someone you can reason with. They don’t lose their ability to see another perspective just because they aren’t getting what they want.

Their consistency makes them reliable. Because they have an integrated sense of self, they usually won’t surprise you with unexpected inconsistencies.

They don’t take everything personally. They can laugh at themselves and their foibles. They’re realistic enough to not feel unloved just because you made a mistake.

They’re respectful and reciprocal

They respect your boundaries. They’re looking for connection and closeness, not intrusion, control or enmeshment. They respect your individuality and that others have the final say on what their motivations are. They may tell you how they feel about what you did, but they don’t pretend to know you better than you know yourself.

They give back. They don’t like taking advantage of people, nor do they like the feeling of being used.

They are flexible and compromise well. Because collaborative, mature people don’t have an agenda to win at all costs, you won’t feel like you’re being taken advantage of. Compromise doesn’t mean mutual sacrifice; it means a mutual balancing of desires. They care about how you feel and don’t want to leave you feeling unsatisfied.

They’re even-tempered. They don’t sulk or pout for long periods of time or make you walk on eggshells. When angered, they will usually tell you what’s wrong and ask you to do things differently. They’re willing to take the initiative to bring conflict to a close.

They are willing to be influenced. They don’t feel threatened when other people see things differently, nor are they afraid of seeming weak if they don’t know something. They may not agree, but they’ll try to understand your point of view.

They’re truthful. They understand why you’re upset if they lie or give you a false impression.

They apologize and make amends. They want to be responsible for their own behavior and are willing to apologize when needed.

They’re responsive

Their empathy makes you feel safe. Along with self-awareness, empathy is the soul of emotional intelligence.

They make you feel seen and understood. Their behavior reflects their desire to really get to know you, rather than looking for you to mirror them. They aren’t afraid of your emotions and don’t tell you that you should be feeling some other way.

They like to comfort and be comforted. They are sympathetic and know how crucial friendly support can be.

They reflect on their actions and try to change. They clearly understand how people affect each other emotionally. They take you seriously if you tell them about a behavior of theirs that makes you uncomfortable. They’ll remain aware of the issue and demonstrate follow-through in their attempts to change.

They can laugh and be playful. Laughter is a form of egalitarian play between people and reflects an ability to relinquish control and follow someone else’s lead.

They’re enjoyable to be around. They aren’t always happy, but for the most part they seem able to generate their own good feelings and enjoy life.

–  © Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Lindsay C. Gibson, Psy.D.

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